We get it – you NAILED the proposal. KUDOS! But that does not mean you’re home free for the ENTIRE wedding. Wedding planning is a job designed to be done by two people. So if you want to prevent your better half from turning into bride(or groom)zilla…here are some ideas to share the heavy wedding lifting.
1) Guest List: Let’s face it --your fiancé does not know Aunt Mildred’s phone number, much less her address… and they definitely don’t know that your childhood friend Timmy is now Dr. Timothy. Help plan out the guest list and collect your side’s salutations and addresses.
2) Pick Your Crew: This is a no brainer but coordinating party size and mutually agreeing on the list with your fiancé is a great early step to wedding planning bliss. Pro tip- Don’t try to sneak in that one cousin that always gets “over served” and whose humor does not sit well with your fiancé. Sure you’ve been through “a lot” together but your wedding day does NOT need to be one of those days.
3) Make the Website: This is a mighty tool that all of your friends and family will be visiting often for vital information. So if you don’t want it to be pink and filled with awkward engagement pictures featuring your “bad side”…take it upon yourself to “get your tech on” and create it yourself.
4) Register: The modern couple often already has or does not want the traditional kitchen accessories and formal china filled registry. From honeymoon funds to barware to gifts geared towards man’s best friend – be proactive and help with the registry to get what YOU want.
5) Plan & Book The Honeymoon: Oh hells yes! A trip to an exotic place with a potential first class upgrade – this job is screaming your name!
6) Guest’s Accommodation Options: From nearby hotels to AirBnBs your guests will need a place to stay (particularly if the majority of the guest list is out of town). Use those big boy negotiating skills you learned at [insert investment bank name] and score your guests a great deal at a memorable destination.
7) Pick & Book Wedding Music: Will it be a DJ or band? Will there be live music at the ceremony? Cocktail hour? Remember, music is KEY to creating your wedding day ambience so if you don’t want a repeat of “I have the microphone” from The Wedding Singer, do your due diligence and get this one right!
8) Arrange Wedding Transportation: Well you gotta get from Point A to Point B somehow and I gather YOU won’t be driving. Go car (or bus) crazy and pick a ride for you and your guests, if you’re feeling generous, that says “I’m a man and I love things with motors and wheels that go fast”! Just kidding… unless of course you’re into that sort of thing!
9) Keep Your Family in Check: At some point in the process there’s bound to be an altercation over finances, the venue, the meal or maybe even the invitations! If it’s your side causing the drama you handle it and vice versa with your fiancé. Family has to forgive but your fiancé is not technically family yet…catch my drift?
10) Wedding Bands: Chances are you haven’t worn or owned much jewelry prior to your wedding band. For that reason you should DEFINITELY speak up about what you want and help find/purchase your new daily accessory. Don’t come crying to me if you skip this step, end up hating the band, refuse to wear it and your spouse forces you to tattoo “taken” on your ring finger in its place.
11) Plan the Bar: Bottoms up! From style of bar to custom cocktails this task is arguably the most fun!
12) Speeeeech!: Whether it’s writing your own vows and/or greeting your guests you will be encouraged and maybe even required to speak into a microphone on your wedding day. Don’t cause the room to have major second hand embarrassment… plan ahead!
13) Thoughtful Gift Ideas: From your parents to your groomsmen and most importantly your future spouse, don’t forget to take the time to come up with a memorable gift for your loved ones. And please for the love of God do not be cheap! A monogrammed paperweight is NOT a thoughtful gift.
14) Organize Wedding Day Cash Payments: Here’s your chance to claim your role as financial head of the household. Grab some cash, label some envelopes and hand those suckers out to requiring vendors like it’s Christmas morning.
15) Style Your Wedding Day Look: [Insert I DEUX] I mean do you really think we would’ve gone through all this effort to create this killer list if it didn’t end with us?? From custom shirts to ties/bow ties and pocket squares we have all of the tools to help kick start AND elevate your wedding day look. After all…some of the items on this list were tough – saying “I do” with I DEUX is a breeze! Get started today!